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...about blogging is finding the right audience. I've tried several other blogging forums (fora, for you fellow English majors), and none of them quite took off. So I'm giving it a shot here.

Today I've been thinking about fear. Nothing in particular, just general thoughts. Fear of change, fear of dying, of being rejected, even fear of living. You know the fears, too: just the normal everyday fears we all struggle with now and again.

That's when I had my epiphany: I am too old to be afraid! I'm too old to be afraid of what I used to be afraid of. Sure, there are still things that make me nervous, such as attending a new college for the first time, or going to the dentist. (Ever notice that the FEAR of going to the dentist is always much worse than what actually happens there?)

But most of all, I am no longer afraid of fear. That's not to say that I am never afraid, because sometimes I am. But I'm no longer afraid to be afraid. Fear no longer paralyzes me, and keeps me from doing what I need to do. And even though I first consciously realized this today, I've been doing it for a long time.

In 1998, before I started to transition, I met a woman on the first day of training for a new job. It turned out we had a few things in common, and we became friends. But I had already realized that the reason so many of my friendships and relationships in the past had failed was that I was living a lie. You all know what that lie is, because you've lived it yourselves: trying to be someone or something you weren't and never could be.

But this woman was different. I knew I wanted her in my life in one capacity or another. I was hoping for a friend, but I'd even settle for an acquaintance. So I "screwed my courage to the sticking post" and told her. I told her I was trans gender, what it meant, and that I was planning on transitioning. Her reply? "Well, I was wondering when you were going to tell me."

All my fears, all my worries about how she was going to react were for nothing. We became good friends, then roommates, and lovers. Now, in July 2012, we've been married for just over three years.

Afraid? It's okay! Fearful? Sometimes it's the only rational reaction. But don't let your fear paralyze you. You CAN overcome it.

"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain." -- Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear. "Dune," Frank Herbert

"We have nothing to fear but fear itself. Oh, and clowns!" Franklin D. Roosevelt


baronvoninternet's picture

very inspiring words for anyone facing fears of their own.
Welcome to the community, as with all BVI sites, the community belongs to the members so if there is something that was missing on the other sites that would like to see here, please feel free to let me know and I will see what I can do to accomodate.

Have a great evening, day or whatever it is in your neck of the woods

RobynJane's picture

Oh, it wasn't so much that things were missing elsewhere; it's just that giving the target audience of this site, I figured I'd have a much more accepting audience.

And by the way, none of the other sites were BVI sites.

baronvoninternet's picture

lol, ya the baron von Internet thing. It originally was kinda a tongue in cheek thing on the whole progression, or regression of the Internet as a whole. With Facebook stocks and buyouts all over the place, I kinda wanted to go back to a more community approach, although the word Baron implies a certain level of control, I like to look at it more as a taking back the inter net "property" for the people. Http://www.vanartgallery.com, which is very similar to a local art gallery's domain, used to be owned by some squatters who were wasting it in hopes that an already cash strapped art community would succumb to their demands and fork out some money for the site. Now it belongs to the art community as a whole... As it should.

Punkroku's picture

Be fearless and be yourself! I felt the same way and when I told the truth I started living fulltime it was a great relief — I was semi-freed from the internal anguish— there's this religion part with my family. It seemed like a lose - lose situation (family vs. myself). I am glad you found someone and that is wonderful, that's family.

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